Life Lessons

It's been a long time since I wrote a blog post. Maybe I didn't have anything to say? Doubtful.....but here's what is on my mind......

Lately it feels like I've been giving advice to friends that are breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend, going through a divorce or in an unhappy marriage and not sure what to do. Here are a few lessons that I've gathered over time that have really made a difference and actually helped me. See what you think....

Lizzie's Lessons:
1. No matter how high your hopes are, or how much you want to believe it....ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS remember, PEOPLE NEVER CHANGE! Although they will tell you what you want to hear so that you will give them another chance. Don't do it.....unless you like to hear "I told you so!"
2. Just because someone loves you, if they don't love you the way you want to be loved.....they will never make you happy.....it's ok to love someone and realize that they aren't "the one".
3. You can't control anyone else's behavior, you can only control the way you react to their ridiculous behavior (ok, that one I stole from someone very wise)
4. If you've never been alone, and don't enjoy your own company....you aren't ready to be part of an "us". Take yourself on a date.
5. No man wants a woman that he knows he can have too easily......a little bit of mystery goes a long way (so does not having sex on the first few dates).
6. Memories are a wonderful thing.....we always remember the good more than the bad.....if you forget the bad, try getting back together with your ex. In about 2 - 3 weeks you'll remember all the reasons you split up in the first place. Hold onto the good memories and realize they are meant to be memories.
7. There is no BBD. The Bigger Better Deal is a fantasy that will keep you single for the rest of your life!
8. Kindness always outweighs hotness. Hotness fades very quickly, kindness lasts forever....
9. Insecurity is the biggest turnoff....yes even more than cellulite, I promise.
10. Don't bash your ex or try to poison your children....Karma is a bitch and she will bite you in ass, maybe not today but sooner than you think!
11. Last but not least......Sex is very important. Anyone who tells you otherwise, isn't having any!