Little Head short-term, Big Head long-term. This is the way men are built, they can't help it, and there's really nothing wrong with it if you understand it. What turns a man's head, to look at every set of boobs that walks by, is strictly the little head's reflex. When a man is with a woman that he has a big head connection with, that reflex is still active but may be respectfully sheltered in her presence(or not). Let me break it down for you, choose the term you want long or short, and focus on that head. As for my male friend, his big and little head better have a conversation and figure out some kind of compromise. I'm thinking he needs to date in the notch below the "hottest of the hot with the smokin' bodies" category and see what happens. He might be shocked to find both a big and little head turn-on can come from the same place!
I think it'll be a while before the light bulb in his big head goes off and he gets it. For now the little head remains far out in front with no sign of a slowdown. I can't help but smile knowing someday when the big head gets the little head to give it a chance,that he'll come back to me and tell me he's ready for my "I told you so" when he's dating a woman that satisfies BOTH heads!!
By the way, the same thing goes for woman. Although we only have one head, we need both big head and little head connection. Unless of course you're a cougar and then the whole theory goes out the window.
I love it Liz... Makes for a good read!!!
ReplyDeleteInteresting: from the female perspective you're picking up where Tolstoy left off with Anna Karenina in terms of the male perception and patterns of behavior. Thankfully, today, I think there are a sufficient number of men who understand the long term beneifts of the quixotic doctrine. Keep writing!
ReplyDeleteHello Carrie Bradshaw...keep writing! I want to read you every night like a good book!
ReplyDeleteCorrect and reason to never date someone separated or within a year or two of divorce. It takes time to go through the process (though most people think they are ready immediately) and come to a place of balance.
ReplyDeleteGood job, Liz.
Just for the record I am about the big head, but I have found both!
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ReplyDeleteHey Liz! Was it the 4 years you spent at GWU that made you into such a great writer?! It is so true! I loved it and can't wait to read more!
ReplyDeleteWonderful advise and insight. Too bad we all do not realize that a partner needs to be a friend who can listen and not always speak back, someone to offer a smile, to be alone with out always having to have communication. Hard bodies come and go, bu learning to be supportive from both sides is what makes for a strong enduring realtionship. I only wish we could all find this and heed Liz's words
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